In today’s episode, I’m joined by Aiman Merali, a registered therapist in the UK, who runs a private practice. Aiman, who is a devoted mum of three, is a Kenyan-born Muslim of Indian descent. She migrated to the UK while still young and now helps her clients integrate all of their identities into their being.
Tune in and listen to the discussion as we share about the importance of premarital counseling, what it is, and who needs it. She also answers questions on when is it the right time to have one, things to consider when choosing a counselor, and how all these relate to the Quran.
In This Episode:
[01:36] Riddle for Aiman
[03:45] What’s premarital counseling and when is the right time to have it?
[06:32] Is premarital counseling important for those marrying for a second time?
[08:49] How to uncouple from the previous marriage/relationships
[10:28] What’s the need for counseling
[14:54] What it means when you face more relationship problems after counseling
[18:30] What is premarital counseling all about?
[21:08] The Quran and premarital counseling
[26:06] Meditation as a form of therapy
[32:06] What are the benefits of premarital counseling
[37:08] What to look for when choosing a counselor
[42:53] Why is therapy even necessary
[48:45] Message to humanity
● Counseling is not about growing someone or learning something about you. It is about integrating the knowledge that you have into the way of being.
● Premarital counseling is also a good space to consciously uncouple from your previous marriage
● A therapeutic relationship is a safe space where I can shade some of my layers that I don’t feel safe to be around other people.
● Sometimes we hold on to the fantasies so much that we can’t see the reality of things that are happening.
● Find somebody (counselor) with who you feel comfortable enough. But also who you feel you can trust to be uncomfortable in the company of.